Since creating the Feel the Love Transformation Cards, I’ve been extremely blessed with such positive feedback. With Breast Cancer Awareness month around the corner and working on collaborations to help support the cause, I felt compelled to share this letter with the author’s permission.
While I am humbled by this letter, I wanted to share this as a reminder to recognize the caretakers—doctors, nurses, and family members—who want nothing but the best for the patient. These feelings of hopelessness, anxiety, and sadness are not uncommon and can leave us feeling overwhelmed. And they are okay. Remember: we can’t take care of others unless we take care of ourselves. Practice your positivity, and it healing can be contagious (in a great way!).
Thank you for sharing your story.
Feel the love,
This year has not been good to my father—he had back surgery in February, which didn’t relieve much pain and caused nerve damage in his legs and, a few weeks ago, received a cancer diagnosis. The tumor, found in his esophagus, meant a life-changing surgery, altering his digestive system in a major way.
When cancer becomes a normal topic in conversation—my family has talked about it every day since the diagnosis—it becomes a scary thing. Everyone has a cancer story, and you are inundated with treatment advice from both professionals and friends. The word takes hold and almost overpowers you with a range of emotions from fear to anxiety to anger.
In a cancer world, it is hard to stay positive.
I had originally picked up your Feel the Love Transformation Cards for myself, but when I packed for Syracuse to be there for my father’s surgery, I tossed the deck in my suitcase. I had no idea how influential they’d be.
The first time I pulled a card, it was for my father, the morning of the surgery. He’s not one who usually gravitates towards the power of positivity, but he was so nervous and I felt so hopeless, we were both open to giving it a try. We selected: “Release what no longer serves you.” I wanted him to release this tumor—something that was definitely not serving him. This message resonated with me, as I needed to release my anxious, worrisome thoughts and trust the surgeons would be successful.
After the surgery (which was a success!), we picked a card together every day while he recovered in the hospital. Sometimes, I left the card of the day framed in its box on his table so he could look at it and be reminded he was loved.
I saw firsthand how these cards could frame his mindset as a patient battling cancer, but I also realized how beneficial they were to me. While I am not suffering an iota of what he is going through, being a caretaker was honestly stressful and exhausting. I felt helpless. I was angry. Yet, I felt I needed to mask my emotions and be strong for him even though I felt I was about to fall apart.
It was hard to find an outlet to relieve some of those emotions. That is, until I put my hands on that deck, shuffled those messages around, and let the Universe be my guide. It was like I had a Susie in my pocket—someone to confess my fears and reframe my thoughts. I was able to be by his side, and it was because you were by mine.
In a cancer world, I learned you can be positive, if you allow yourself to feel the love.